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airbornedoc (11/18/2005)
Kids, both boys, are 9 and 11 years old. The oldest is diagnosed with chronic post traumatic stress disorder due to psychomom. Just means I need to be near a kid-shrink. Germany would be relaxing for all of us. FT Walton Beach is two hours from us and would be an easier move. Cocoa Beach is three hours. Recruiter said everything would be in writing including the FS course. Doc out.I don't know what med facilities are in Germany, Eglin (IIRC) has a full size hospital, and Hurlburt has a clinic. How will they react to your going away 3-6 months at a time?
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That is my main hesitation. I have a special someone who is wonderful to them and who will take good care of them but it would be hardest on my oldest son. PTSD in kids doesn't come out as flashbacks but as extreme irrational anger and fear. His anger is getting much, much better but the kid is afraid of everything. He is afraid of mommy breaking into the house with a gun to kill us (rational) and he is afraid of taking tennis lessons or even talking to friends of mine at work (irrational). I know now that is how he survived his mom when I was at work and she was doing her Borderline Personality Disorder crap like pulling loaded guns out and terrorizing them. He walked on eggshells and lived in constant fear she would hurt or kill him. I thought at the time it was just me. But they were more abused and terrorized than I was. My biggest fear is if I took a bullet in the head or died of a raging case of hemorrhoids on deployment then they have no place to go, at least now, that is permanent. So I thought I would take them to FT Walton Beach or Cocoa Beach or even Germany and show them the base and get their opinion about living there. But my oldest son has already said he would feel safer living on a base because psychomom can't try and break into the house, like she has already threatened to do. I was kind of hoping the USAF would look at their history and not deploy me until they were old enough to take care of themselves, say ten years. Yeah, I'm serious when I say that. Doc out.
It's okay to have fear. It's what you do with your fear that makes you who you are and who you will be. Airbornedad to airborneson
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airbornedoc (11/18/2005)
I was kind of hoping the USAF would look at their history and not deploy me until they were old enough to take care of themselves, say ten years. Yeah, I'm serious when I say that. Doc out.I seriously suggest you take a hard look at what you just wrote. Your willing to have other people take your deployments, the associated risks, the strain on their family lives for the next decade. Then what happens? You retire? I've deployed a lot, my first marriage failed because I was gone so often. I've been a single parent, it is hard. I have single parents who have worked for me, re-arranging schedules is hard on your co-workers. As a flight Doc, you are considered part of that squadron. They deploy, you stay home. Guess what, all the badges in the world will not restore your credibility. I was in a unit that had 99% of it's folks deployed in a 12 month period. The one guy who didn't go? He didn't go because his wife and kid couldn't handle the pressure of a deployment. Want to guess who gets laughed at, treated like shit? As I said earlier, Flight Doc is a great gig, but active duty may not be for you. Have you talked to the Reserves (Patrick AFB/Duke AAFHomestead ARB) or Guard (Jacksonville)? They can do a better job working around those who don't want to go to war.
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At least you wouldn't deploy much with The US Public Health Service (Commissioned Corps)....
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I am looking at the commissioned corps. Being the single parent of two traumatized kids who have nowhere else to go is the only reason I haven't signed the dotted line already. It isn't fair to anyone else if I can't fully commit to the mission. I love the military, but I have to protect my kids. Again, my only option is that I do have someone that can take care of them during a deployment but I don't know the psychological effects of a long deployment on my traumatized kids. I am looking at the FLARNG. As a medical corps officer, I would deploy in three month increments. Don't worry, I am not going to sign the dotted line unless I can fully commit 100% to the mission. That is one reason I am writing here to get the insight of your experience into this problem. I am open to all comments and I won't be offended by anyone. If anyone knows anything about the commissioned corps I am listening. Doc out.
It's okay to have fear. It's what you do with your fear that makes you who you are and who you will be. Airbornedad to airborneson
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| For those who don't know - USPHS are the Docs for the USCG. They're also the Docs for Indian (Feathers, not Dots) reservations. OK, Doc - If you're a Doc serving in either the Reserve or Active components in ANY of the services, you better bet you're gonna get deployed AT LEAST once inside of the next 10 years. If you and your family are not ready to deal with that - Wait 10 years until your family is ready, then join. The military will STILL need Docs then and it's easy to get an age waiver fopr professional appointments, if you need one. Seems like you could do significant damage to the one Son if he's counting on you to be there, but you have to go away. There's all kinds of SERVICE, Doc. Seems like serving your kids might be the best choice, at the moment. None of my business, but there's my unsolicited opinion anyway. Good luck, whatever you choose!
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