"Hundreds of thousands of American servicemen and women are deployed across the world in the war on terror. By bringing hope to the oppressed, and delivering justice to the violent, they are making America more secure. "
George W. Bush

I am sorry for your loss Mazzi, and Jim.

 Our prayers are with both of you.

 Out of every 100 men, ten shouldn't even be there, Eighty are just targets, Nine are the real fighters, and we are lucky to have them, for they make the battle. Ah, but the one, one is a warrior, and he will bring the others back." - Hericletus, circa 500 BC

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About two years ago, a good friend of mine and his wife lost their baby just before the first trimester. He took the loss harder than his wife (a medical professional who was able to rationalize the situation better I guess.) Anyway, he was able to make it through the grief and they now have a little boy who just turned one yesterday. Will ask him for advice he might have for your husband today. One thing though... the whole situation then lead to a lot of open discussion and it became apparent that miscarriages are not as uncommen as we guys think. For example, I found out that both my mother and sister had them... Sorry if this paragraph seems a little unfocused. 

"The degenerative and loony should never be denigrated but, rather, thanked. In their absence, the rest of you would be obliged to fill congressional seats... positions naturally unsavory to the sane and honorable."

Thorax

"Hundreds of thousands of American servicemen and women are deployed across the world in the war on terror. By bringing hope to the oppressed, and delivering justice to the violent, they are making America more secure. "
George W. Bush

We had lost one or two before we had our son in 1999, we just kept pluuging away, If at first you don't suceed, I guess.

I'm sorry for your loss Jen.

"He that hath no stomach for this fight, let him depart"

Jen,

My only advice is if the depression is severe (where it is causing negative changes in your personal or professional lives) see and trust your doctor.  Take advantage of modern day anti-depressants . . . this will allow you to sleep at night and slowly regain some of your physical and metal health.

Lastly, . . . see a close family member, friend, therapist, psychologist, psychoanalysis, counselor, or a Minister/Priest and get off of the anti-depressants as soon as you are able.  Meidication and/or reaching out is not a sign of weakness, the pain and questions are a part of the process that transition you through this time and allows the moving on.

We have kept you and Jim in our thoughts and prayers since we first learned of your loss.  And given that we can do little more, that is where we will keep you.

Thank you for your kind words.  I refuse to go on treatment or take any medication as my depression did not require me to.  Jim was there for me and that got me through it.  The pain will always be there but we know that we will move on when the time is right. 

As for the stress factor, I quit my job here as the HR MAnager and found a job more suited for me closer to home.  This job was way too much for one individual and that did not help me in my stress level.  Things are picking up for us and I can freely talk more about my situation without breaking down and crying.  I just have to remember that Rome was not built in a day and the grieving process takes about just as long.

"Hundreds of thousands of American servicemen and women are deployed across the world in the war on terror. By bringing hope to the oppressed, and delivering justice to the violent, they are making America more secure. "
George W. Bush